Biblically Fighting the Incest Lobby

on April 1, 2016

Recently we at the IRD exposed the existence of a small, but growing pro-incest lobby that is making use of the very same arguments the gay rights movement used to overthrow traditional marriage.

One of the sexual revolutionaries quoted in our exposé penned a response to our article, a response that we can use as an object lesson in how the body of Christ should address these new sexual radicals.

This sexual revolutionary identifies herself as “Janedoeofks” or as we shall call her in this article “Jane Doe.” She runs a website dedicated to the “intelligent discussion of romantic relationships between family members.” By her own admission she has had sexual relations with her own father since she “was almost 20 up until [she] was in [her] late 20s.”  Her father broke off the relationship because he feared getting caught and had a pang of conscience about the taboo nature of their liaison. She blames society’s “ridiculous taboo” against incest for the failure of their relationship. Most shocking, however, is that Jane Doe claims that she would “consider [her]self Christian” and uses theological arguments to make the case that God is okay with incestuous behavior.

Now that the table is set, we will begin with a refutation of her position. Not every point will be addressed, as we are primarily interested in theological and moral frameworks. Our critique will be formatted in the same manner as her article, namely a quote from her piece followed by our response.

Jane Doe makes use of red letter Christianity, a favorite tactic of the gay lobby, which isolates and emphasizes the direct teaching of Jesus in the Gospels to the detriment of the rest of scripture. To that end she claims Jesus did not mention incest and it is thus “irrelevant to the faith.”

Can this religious person DENY that Jesus did not mention either homosexuality or incest, and provide a quote from Jesus to prove me wrong? No, he cannot, because no such quote exists.

Jesus didn’t mention rape or pedophilia in his earthly ministry either. If Jane Doe insists that things that are not included in the earthly ministry of Jesus are “irrelevant to the faith,” then she would have to say that ethics and laws against rape and pedophilia are “irrelevant to the faith” as well.

More importantly, her claim that Jesus never spoke against homosexuality and incest is demonstrably false. Jesus claims to be one with the Father (John 10:30), which means all of God’s dialogue in the Old Testament belongs to Jesus. In Leviticus chapter 18:6-17 God (Jesus) condemns incest, calling it “depravity.”

Prove me wrong pastor… where apart from a single passage in leviticus (a book most people now largely ignore because of the stupidity of it’s regulations and it’s irrelevance to modern life) is there any condemnation of Incest?

In I Corinthians 5:1 Paul condemns the Corinthian church for allowing “immorality…of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father’s wife.” In verse five, Paul doubles down, saying that he has “decided to deliver [the incestuous man] to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus” [Emphasis Added].

It is worth noting that the term “father’s wife” was a Hebrew euphemism for stepmother. If relations between stepfamily members are considered so immoral that it is “not tolerated even among the pagans,” and it is so horrible that Paul felt compelled to “deliverer [the man] to Satan” to save him from the sin, then it stands to reason that relations between actual blood relatives would be just as, if not more evil in the sight of God.  In short, not only is incest condemned outside of Leviticus, it is condemned in the strongest possible terms.

Furthermore, if incest was so bad, why in Genesis is Abraham a prophet when he is [incestuous] himself, being wed to his sister Sarah? If God was anti-incest, he would not choose a[n] [incestuous] person to be the founder of the three largest religions of the world, Judaism, Christianity, and Islam. Can’t have been that much of an issue now… can it?

There are three ways to answer this objection.

First, we must remember that God’s selection of human agents is not a validation of their life choices. When God raises up men to do His bidding He is choosing from a pool of sinful people (Rom. 3:23). God chose Paul to spread the gospel, despite the fact that he murdered Christians. God chose Sampson and he was a promiscuous womanizer. God chose David to be king knowing he would commit murder and adultery. If we take Jane Doe’s argument to its logical extension she would be forced to say that God’s selection of these people means that God approves of murder, adultery, and promiscuous womanizing. This is obviously false. God selected Abraham as the father of the faith in spite of his incest rather than because of it.

Jane Doe’s position can also be refuted by the progressive revelation of God’s law. For example, in Genesis 9:6 God said that murder is to always be punished by death. And yet when Cain killed Abel in Genesis 4, God not only abstained from executing him, but he put a mark of protection on him. Why did God do this? We don’t know, but it is ultimately irrelevant for contemporary times because Genesis 9:6 inaugurated a new paradigm in which murder is punished by death.

In the same way, we are not told why God did not crackdown on incest at the time of Abraham, nor are we told why God had Cain marry one of his sisters at the beginning of the human race.  But it ultimately doesn’t matter. What is important is that God’s standing order is that incest is illegitimate in all circumstances (Lev. 18:6-17).

Finally, fornication and adultery are clearly condemned in scripture-including in the New Testament in general and the direct ministry of Jesus in particular (Matt 15:19, I Cor. 6:9;18, I Thess. 4:3). Incestuous activity always necessitates at least one of these practices.  It is therefore considered evil in the eyes of God.

Desperate and out of options, Jane Doe, like the gay rights activists before her, attacks the scriptures themselves in an attempt to separate them from the words of our Lord.

Do we follow the letter of the Bible which is as flawed as the humans that wrote and translated it, or the spirit of God’s law, which is the law of love, which requires freedom?

This question is as problematic as it is contradictory. First, how does Jane Doe know that God’s law is the law of love apart from the words of Christ as reported in the Bible? If the Bible is as flawed as the people who wrote it, how do we know it is accurate when it claims that Christ told us to love God and love others? Apart from the Bible, how does Jane Doe know how God defines “love?” How does she know that God’s definition of “love” requires “freedom?” How does she know for certain how God defines “freedom?” Without the scriptures, we have no way of knowing the answers to these questions. When one looks at the scriptures one finds that Christ said we demonstrate love by obeying his commandments (John 14:15), one of which was to abstain from incestuous behavior. It is therefore incoherent to say that God’s definition of love includes approval of incestuous relations.

Second, it is impossible to be an informed Christian and claim that the Bible is “as flawed as the humans that wrote and translated it.” The Bible presents itself as the word of God rather than the word of man. II Peter 1:20-21 states “But know this first of all, that no prophecy of Scripture is a matter of one’s own interpretation for no prophecy was ever made by an act of human will, but men moved by the Holy Spirit spoke from God” [Emphasis Added].

Jesus, who all Christians acknowledge as God, said that the Holy Spirit would echo what He tells Him to say to His disciples (John 16:13-15). The Holy Spirit is God, just as Christ is God (Acts 5:3-4). In Acts chapter 2, the Holy Spirit fell upon Peter. Peter said that Paul’s writings were scripture (2 Peter 3:16). Paul said in II Timothy 3:16-17 that all scripture is “God Breathed.” Since Jesus is God that means that all scripture is “Jesus breathed.” That means that the scripture-the Bible-ultimately came from Jesus not men. To drive a wedge between Jesus and the scriptures is therefore unsound, as they will never contradict. Since the Biblical scriptures are the Word of God, they reveal the “spirit of God’s law.” The scriptures clearly forbid incest in all circumstances, which means incest is against the “spirit of God’s law.”

Next, Jane Doe tries to make the case that Christ argued for the abolition of the Mosaic Code in his dispute with the Pharisees.

[T]he Holy Spirit, trumps legalisms. Didn’t Jesus himself break Judaisms laws by doing good deeds on the Sabbath, thus enraging religious authorities? Yes he did… therefore it is reasonable to conclude that Jesus would not want the ancient Judaic law enforced, especially not in this day and age. We should have moved past such BS by now.

Sexual revolutionaries have always capitalized on ignorance and there is an abundance of ignorance in the Christian community when it comes to Christ’s dispute with the Pharisees. People who just give a surface glance of the disputes would think that Christ was criticizing/abolishing the Law of Moses, despite his clear declaration to the contrary (Matt 5:17-19).

A more careful look at the tenants of the Pharisees shows a different picture. Christ never criticized the Mosaic Law in his dispute with the Pharisees. He criticized their traditions, their unbiblical additions to it.  For example, there was no law in the Mosaic code that forbade Jesus from healing on the Sabbath; it merely forbade “work” on the Sabbath. The Pharisees made up additional regulations to the statue that God never authorized. Christ was merely demonstrating the inconsistency-and hypocrisy-of their position (Luke 13:15-16).

At no time did Christ call for the abolition of the legal and moral prohibition against incest.

Jane Doe’s inconsistency is on full display here. She dismisses “Judiasms [sic] laws” as something Jesus would “not want enforced” and then she turns around and appeals to Abraham and Sarah’s half sibling marriage as a model for people to follow today.

Next, Jane Doe takes issue with the idea of people letting disgust with incest justify laws against it.

Legitimate question… should legislation be based upon freedom and logic, or on what some other persons may find disgusting? Personally, I find it a no-brainer. Obviously since one could find anyone to find any other act disgusting, personal disgust should play no part in the legislative arm of government.

Jane Doe’s position collapses in on itself. She doesn’t want disgust dictating our legislation because she is disgusted with the idea.

The fact is we let disgust dictate our policy all the time. Why is rape and child abuse outlawed, except for the disgust their harming properties bring to God and man?

Questions of legislation are ultimately questions of justice and questions of justice are ultimately questions of authority. The question then becomes who is the final authority in the world? Man or God? Jane Doe appeals to her own opinion as the authority. The problem with this becomes apparent when we realize that she is just one of six billion people with an opinion. What makes her pro-incest opinion intrinsically better than an anti-incest opinion? And by what standard can she judge? Without a standard that transcends human opinion (God), she can’t. She is asking everyone to accept that incest should be decriminalized for no other reason except that she says so. This is how a tyrant thinks; their opinion is law because they say so.

Jane Doe is beat either way on this point. She can’t justify her pro-incest position because she lacks the authority to do so, and God-the one person who has authority to justify his position-has sided against her and said that incest is evil.

I have no beef with Christianity, I would consider myself Christian, I do have a major beef with those who use their religion to justify the denial of other people’s rights.

By this point it is obvious that Jane Doe DOES have a “beef with Christianity.” She hates its regulations against incest. In fact, she hates Christianity so much that she is willing to put words in God’s mouth in an attempt to deceive his Church into blessing a practice that He has forbidden. Such blatant libel against God demonstrates nothing less than utter contempt for the Christian faith. The only “Christianity” Jane Doe tolerates is one that is made in her image rather than God’s. Furthermore, on what authority is incest a fundamental right? Again, Jane Doe is expecting everyone to ignore the centuries of legislation against the practice throughout history and believe that incest is a right because she said so.

The rebuttals presented in this article provide a sound Biblical defense against the incest lobby. However, these arguments will not be sufficient to change Jane Doe’s mind.

Jane Doe is enslaved to her sin of incest (II Peter 2:19). Her enslavement has blinded her to the most obvious of facts. She already genuinely believes that incestuous activity does not bring family instability, despite the fact that she was a party to adultery with her father and had to go behind the backs of her mother and sisters to do so.  She firmly believes that legalizing incest will not lead to a slippery slope towards other sexual depravity, even though her own cause is poof that the legitimization of homosexuality has opened the doors to the legitimization of other behaviors like incest.

Her enslavement to this sin has destroyed her ability to have relationships with normal men.

Worst of all, her enslavement to sin has brought catastrophic harm to others. She serves as a moderator for an online incest community, which no doubt validates the perverse impulses of people who would otherwise seek help with their lust problems. When a man with pronounced pedophiliac intentions entered the forum she and this incest community refused to give the man’s IP address to the authorities via anonymous tip because, as she said, “we were not sure about how to make an anonymous report without bringing unwanted police attention to [our incest forum].”

Anyone who would put the preservation of their perversion ahead of the safety of children is too blinded by sin to be persuaded by reason alone. Penetrating such a hard heart requires the power of the Word of God, which is “living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart” (Heb. 4:12).

Jane Doe’s greatest hope is not found in defending her depravity. It is found in God the Father, who, rather than abuse her as her earthly father did, offers her the righteousness of Christ, which can make even the worst of sinners clean.

“Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God” (I Cor. 6:9-11). [Emphasis added]

We must pray that Jane Doe and those like her act on Christ’s offer of salvation and restoration, just as we do for the gay rights activists.

In the end, Christians can defend against the sexual revolutionary attacks with the authority of the Word of God, but can overcome and convert them only by the Spirit that gave us the Word of God.

  1. Comment by Mark Brooks on April 1, 2016 at 11:09 am

    The gay marriage argument is the argument for incest, bestiality, pederasty, and even such bizarre horrors as voluntary sexual cannibalism. This is the world that Anthony Kennedy and his four horsemen of the judicial apocalypse are giving us.

  2. Comment by The_Physetor on April 2, 2016 at 11:05 am

    Four “horsemen”?
    I think you meant four body parts of horses.

  3. Comment by Carlos M on April 1, 2016 at 11:18 am

    Like they keep saying, “Love is never wrong.”

  4. Comment by Dave Nuckols on April 1, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    Dragging gay marriage into this post on incest is outrageous, gratuitous and shows a lack of seriousness about the sin of incest. Stop scapegoating gay people for the deviance of some heterosexuals.

  5. Comment by Mark Brooks on April 1, 2016 at 2:10 pm

    You show a lack of seriousness about the sin of homosexuality. Deviance is deviance. In any event, homosexuality and incest are not exclusive.

  6. Comment by David Goudie on April 2, 2016 at 12:05 pm

    The author (Bryan), had written an article before about why he brings up the two in connection.
    For while you may disagree with those who advocate incest, the author points out fairly extensively that those who are in favor of legalizing incest are using the same arguments that were made for homosexuality (and same sex relations).
    In fact, I was somewhat surprised that (while arguing with those in favor of incest in the comments below the first article), that there main argument of “if it’s two adults who love each other why stop them, it’s only their business”… which is a similar argument I heard from others in regards to same sex marriage.
    And when asking a person on the UMC website who advocated same sex marriage about how to respond to incest, for the most part he had to admit that could only say it was not ideal …but that legally he could not say it was “Sinful” as you point out.
    So I’ll ask you, the question I proposed to him … ‘figuring that you come from a perspective of “as long as they are two consenting adults it’s not sinful”, can you think of another way to argue against legalizing incest? Just wondered how you might respond to those advocating for incest?

  7. Comment by Dave Nuckols on April 2, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    David G – I’ve got three points in response to your reply comment:

    (1) It’s simply not valid to impugn those who advocate for same sex marriage for using arguments some which are later appropriated by those arguing for incest. Just like it would not be valid for me to argue that those arguing against same sex marriage are using some arguments (Bible says it’s not okay; it’s a slippery slope, etc) which had previously been used by some arguing against interracial marriage.

    (2) It is incorrect to assume that I “come from a perspective of ‘as long as they are two consenting adults it’s not sinful’.” My position is that Bible teaches marriage is good for all who are not otherwise specifically called to celibacy, and that the traditional interpretation of the clobber passages are both misunderstood as to context and misapplied to the case of same sex marriage. Obviously more to my biblical case that just that. But for this comment I just want to be clear that my position is not simply a matter of “okay for consenting adults” because there are plenty of things it is not okay for consenting adults to do (e.g., fornication, adultery, rape and incest).

    (3) Nothing wrong, in my view, with arguing against incest on biblical grounds. But since you are asking for other ways to make the argument, I would say that (a) incest is never truly consensual because the family dynamic is inherently unhealthy and typically introduces unequal power dynamics so incest — even if between adults — is more akin to child abuse or rape than it is to loving consensual relationships of any kind, and (b) the overwhelming evidence of experience is that incestual relationships are unhealthy whereas we have ample evidence that both heterosexual and homosexual relationships can lead to healthy, loving and mutual committed covenant relationships. When you look at the nature of sexual acts and potential for egalitarian covenant relationships, the prospect of same sex marriage is parallel to that of heterosexual marriage. But when you look at incestual acts or relationships, it is more akin to child abuse, rape or sex slavery.

  8. Comment by Patrick98 on April 1, 2016 at 3:36 pm

    Regarding Abraham and Sarah (half-siblings): The prohibitions against incest were first put forth in the Mosaic law. Until then, in the time of Genesis, the first marriages were to close relatives as our first parents Adam and Eve and their offspring started populating the world. Once a certain time was reached God gave the law. Now that the law has been given we would do well to pay attention to it.

    Bryan Ballas is correct. God chooses and uses imperfect persons for his work in this world.

  9. Comment by Jane Doe on April 1, 2016 at 5:51 pm

    Here I have written a rebuttal to this article too.

  10. Comment by Patrick98 on April 1, 2016 at 6:34 pm

    I just took the time to read your rebuttal. It has, I believe, given me a fuller insight into how you think and feel.

  11. Comment by Jane Doe on April 1, 2016 at 6:50 pm

    Thank you Patrick, I hope most people here will go take a look too in order to see both sides of the debate. I don’t expect everyone to agree with me of course, but it would be nice if they understood my position even if they disagree.

  12. Comment by Praying for you on December 9, 2019 at 10:59 am

    Everything you say you will be accountable for in the coming of the lord. Nothing you say matters to us but only to God and Jesus., so if I were you I would repent and ask for forgiveness because you are only living in the flesh and not the spirit !

  13. Comment by Skipper on April 4, 2016 at 10:43 am

    I took a quick look at your rebuttal. A second is all I dared to look at it. High magnitude evil like a standard argument for sexual perversion. You worked real hard to justify your favorite sin. What does that do for you? You are still facing “Repent and turn back to God.” If you want a good relationship with God, follow the Rules. If you don’t, go ahead, just remember the harm you do others is seen by God. And Jesus said “It will be terrible for people who cause even one of My little followers to sin.” Matt 18:10. Why not give all your love to God?

  14. Comment by Jane Doe on April 4, 2016 at 3:55 pm

    If one second is all the time you dare to look at my rebuttal, then you obviously haven’t even taken the time to read it and understand my argument. First of all, you say the harm people do is seen by God, I agree, but I do not do anyone any harm. I don’t steal from people, I don’t kill people, I don’t assault them, and I am not horrible to people. God is against people deliberately HURTING EACH OTHER… that doesn’t apply here.

    I furthermore genuinely do not believe that incest is a sin, if you would actually read my rebuttal you would understand why not. Furthermore, why didn’t you dare to? Are you afraid of what I may have said, and that it might affect your closed-minded worldview?

    It is actually the closed minded and negative attitudes of some Christians that make the religion look stupid to others and will put people off learning about Jesus… so if you want to see people who will drive people away from God, one need only go to the nearest mirror.

    I do not encourage or discourage others who want to have a relationship with a family member. I offer emotional support, validation and information to people who are already in such relationships. I get e-mails thanking me for my website all the time, sometimes I get questions, and sometimes I get people who have never been involved in these kinds of relationships voicing their support for consanguinamory. My work within my community is very important to a large number of people, and it is something I take very seriously.

    You see, rather than being horrible to people and just condemning people as ‘sinners’… wouldn’t it be better to try to understand people instead? How would you feel if you fell in love with somebody who was closely related to you and had to deal with prejudice and discrimination because of who you love? Is a little empathy too much for you people? I didn’t ask to be consanguinamorous… I just AM. That said, I am happy with it and I would not change it just for the sake of fitting in with somebody else’s idea of what should and should not be allowed.

  15. Comment by Skipper on April 5, 2016 at 12:19 pm

    There is a saying that the mind is what you feed it. I do try to be careful.

    Christian teaching, which was crystalized around 300 A.D., says it’s immoral living, just like same-sex relationships. You mentioned I Corinthians 5, which is very specific.

    If one really loves God, one needs to accept Christian teaching and the bible.
    I learned that our job as followers is to accept Christian doctrine, like we do God’s Word in the bible, in a Christian Believer class. This is a Methodist class with both a workbook and book of Christian doctrine / theology. You have daily assignments in each. I think everyone is the class was looking forward to formulating some doctrine the way we saw it. We were told that great minds had studied this out for centuries, so our job was to accept. We had to stop and think about that – “to accept.” We soon realized that Christian doctrine is not only in line with the Bible, but it has been tried and proven for generations.

    We all get lonely, but it’s important to love God first and put Him first in all we do – in our lives. That includes the Commandments.

    I took another quick look and I see “sexual revolutionaries.” Jesus calls us to be followers and accept God’s family structure and sexual norms. It’s our job to accept God’s ways, if we want to belong to Him! Like those of us in the Christian Believer Class, you might step back and take a hard look at Christian teaching. Then decide if you want to follow God’s ways as close as you can.

  16. Comment by Jane Doe on April 5, 2016 at 6:45 pm

    If the mind is what you feed it, and you only feed it what the church tells you to… then you are not getting an overall balanced view, you are getting a heavily biased one. Doesn’t God ask Christians and Jews to use their ‘thinking ability’… see proverbs ch 1 and 2.

    How can you use your thinking ability if you do not provide your brain with alternative sources of information? You’re NOT going to go to hell for reading my article, I can assure you. If you read it and then disagree with what I have to say, that’s fine, but to not even read it and then comment on it is not smart.

    When the church tries to control what information you expose yourself to, that is mind control. A mind can only be controlled when the input is controlled, just as the outcome of a computer program is controlled by the input.

    God would not use evolution to give us a fantastically high powered brain and then ask us not to use it… that makes no sense. The death of the intellect is also the death of the spirit, because blind faith is no faith worth believing in.

    I questioned everything before I chose Christianity as my religion, I was previously agnostic. That doesn’t mean I do not scrutinize the Bible.,.. I scrutinize it as I would any other book…. how do you know ANY of it is true if you don’t?

    The virgin Birth of Christ for instance, can be explained by quantum physics or extraterrestrial intervention, as can all other ‘miracles’ which are really the as yet understood natural phenomenon that will one day be available to all human beings.

    God loves us… yes… God disapproves of sin… also yes…. but the sins God is concerned with are the sins of jealousy, hatred, greed, lust, theft, murder, adultery… etc. God is NOT going to HATE you and send you to hell even if you do slip up and commit one of these sins… hence salvation by Jesus.

    Actually, God is love and isn’t capable of hate at all. If God is love, he cannot simultaneously be his polar opposite… that is incoherent to even think.

    So all the ‘Christians’ in this thread giving me hate are actually going against what they profess to believe. I try to act on the law of love at ALL TIMES, even if I am angry I try to suppress it and find a healthy outlet (I’d rather beat up a video game character than a person, for instance).

    The strength and the depth of the feelings for my dad… that’s not a sin, that is LOVE. It may be in a form you do not understand, but love it is, and love is not wrong. The relationship I had with him has not been matched in quality by any other, nor do I expect it ever will be.

    Believe me I have tried to ‘go straight’ just as many gays have done… and it does not work because I am incestuous by orientation. That does not make me mad, bad or broken, it just makes me DIFFERENT. Being different from the norm is NOT A SIN.

    I can honestly be proud of who I am as a human being, and as an incestuous woman. I serve my community and I help others the best I know how. I am not the monster you all imagine I am.

    Nor am I the abuse victim that the author of this article implied. If two consenting adults have sexual relations, that by very definition is NOT abuse. We didn’t take the decision to make love lightly, we both knew what it meant, and yet it is what we both wanted. I have never felt so loved or so complete with anyone else. He was my everything. If that makes me a ‘sinner’ then I really am lost for words…

  17. Comment by Skipper on April 6, 2016 at 9:38 am

    I do use my brain or thinking ability – to choose to serve God first! I believe the Bible is God’s Word, so it doesn’t need to be scrutinized or picked through, just accepted and followed.

    Christians follow Jesus! He came to show us how to live. This is found in the bible, and Jesus gave us the Sermon on the Mount. To put it in one word, we are to be “different”. Different from the world around us. Living as God taught us.

    Science cannot explain the miracles of Jesus. And yet His true followers believe anyway. He did miracles and I believe!

    Jesus wept on a donkey as he neared Jerusalem for the last time. That’s because He knew how many unrepentant sinners there were in Jerusalem. They refused to turn back to God. He calls us to the Narrow Way and He said few will find it. That’s because so many choose the Wide and Easy Road. The one that leads to destruction.

    He loved us first, He loves us now, He deserves our love and devotion.

  18. Comment by Putonlove1st on January 17, 2020 at 8:54 pm

    I usually don’t chime in on discussions that are as sensitive in nature. But after reading this discussion it’s heavy on my heart to share my experience.

    Through my teen years and early twenties I was secular in nature I did not have a relationship with God. I ran with a crowd of buddies that acted as most men do at that age. We talked about sex, scoring with women and pornography, this was a normal daily thing for us. In my mid-20s I develop a relationship with God and was married before I was 30.
    I was still heavily in love with pornography of all sorts, it had been such a normal part of my life for so many years.

    I thought once I was married I would and could just stop. After all my needs would be met by my wife from then on. I was mistaken. I couldn’t stop the pornography use. Truthfully I didn’t want to stop, as I said I was in love with it. This caused problems in my marriage. I decided to seek out God in any and all ways that I could to resolve this problem between my wife and my pornography use.

    After a few years of growing and understanding why I looked at pornography I realized that it was something that met several very important needs of mine, not just a sexual one.

    I read a few Christian authored books on the topic and attended a support group with others facing the same issue.

    I never asked to fall in love with pornography or let it have such a hold on my life. I was terrified to live without it. God was gracious and very patient with me. He show me the needs pornography was meeting and through great comfort he showed me how he could meet them instead, and in ways that has brought me so much more joy.

    I was scared, I was protective of what met my needs, and I was convinced there was no way better. I was wrong.

    I agree that we should understand the reasons people meet their needs the way they do, instead of demonizing them. I was fortunate, people took the time to understand me and support me. And this is why I am where I am today.

  19. Comment by Darrell Waters on May 12, 2017 at 10:13 pm

    I’ve been on a web site wher esomone finally said they nkow of testimonies or even know the people with testimonies of deliverance from gay incest by consent where both parties are delivered, but she won’t share any with me. Can you share such?

  20. Comment by ROBERT MRVELJ on September 10, 2017 at 5:09 am

    GOD are two seperate beings GOD the mother and GOD the father GOD the mother gave birth to GOD the father she was a virgin when she gave birth for the first time Jesus Christ is not GOD the father nor GOD the mother. GOD the mother and GOD the father fell in love with each other it eventually led them to having sex for the first time they were both virgins back then and some time later they had many healthy children. What would you say if GOD the mother and GOD the father have over 20 or even over 100 healthy sons and daughters and also not all humans to commit incest as humanity calls it. I wanted to tell you some wants to make women miserable specially a mother who wants to have sex with her son who she gave birth to using many reason and using excuses to oppress manys rights and using underage as another excuse politicans are heartless monsters.

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